Music has always been food for my soul. I love it. I feel it. I think it. And I spend at least an hour a day playing it. It cathartically relieves my stress and goes the extra mile by transforming it into what I can only describe as a smile in my heart.
Anybody who has ever been in love has had a ‘505’. It’s that time and place you always go back to. Usually it is in the formative stages of an affair when you realise that you are genuinely happy with the other person. They complete you to some extent and you know then and there that life is not just good, it’s beautiful.
However, as it is with life, things don’t always remain beautiful. That smile in your heart fades. The magic dust loses its magic. You look for the fairy that sprinkled the dust on you in the first place to get a refund but the bitch disappeared. So now what? Oh yes, that’s when the memory kicks in. As if by your own self-induced trance you go running back through the cerebral neurological fibres of space and time in search for that pure essence. You know, that time when the colours of your world were more vivid; and when you close your eyes you see white, not black. Then you find it: the 505. It’s right there staring your subconscious in the face. Gorgeous. Painfully perfect.
So what now? This is where the grandmaster of life throws a trap in your walk of destiny. Naturally, you go back to your 505. But do you do so blindly with the intention to never leave it? By this I mean, do you continue to go about your existing relationship based on the memory of how brilliant your 505 was while ignoring the contradictory situation of the present where, you know what, things are not okay? Or do you take the initiative of letting go of your 505, living in the now and seeking to make better 505s in the future? Believe it or not but I am 99% sure that: a) The fist scenario is the trap and b) A lot of people who know that things in a relationship are not going so great insist on living with the first scenario rather than breaking free from the relationship early. In the latter case you are virtually digging a coffin to inadvertently bury your relationship one day.
This is the approach the singer of this song took, and I can relate. Alex sings “I crumble completely when you cry, it seems like once again you've had to greet me with goodbye”. Rather than cutting the relationship he is dragging this girl with him mentally. She can’t take his absence. He survives away from her by visiting his 505 and feeling comfort from that deceitful spark in his heart. She adopts a different approach. When she cries he breaks down because he knows there is nothing he can do except visit his 505.
The contrast? In the song, Nothing Else Matters, Metallica’s James Hetfield said it best: “Trust I seek and I find in you. Everyday bring us something new. Open mind for a different view. And nothing else matters”.
I think that is what we should all strive for. If either party blocks the progression towards that ideal then I don't think it's meant to be.
Everyday should either be a 505 or seed a new one for tomorrow.
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